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break up mess. what should i do now?
background: started dating the boy in february after meeting him about a month before that. He gave me a rose, and asked me out, then for v-day, he cooked me dinner, had roses, candlelight, wine and my favorite desert plus bought me a john lennon poster, and beatles t-shirt. he has been the sweeeetest guy ive ever met, i fell in love with him quickly. we've had really good times together, share the same hobbies, like to workout, he loves my friends, i love his...he practically lived with me for 3/4 of the time we've been together..but i liked being around him, he got me more organized, helped me clean the house, bought groceries...the whole nine yards.
present: i broke up with him last week the day after we got back from a beach trip (that went off without a hitch) because when we got back, he was in a horrible mood...(i slept the entire way home, so i have no idea what happened). he wanted me to go home, was mean, didnt answer his phone all night long... (theres more to this..)
so the next morning, i got a text saying "you didnt do anything wrong, nor am i mad at you...dont think you did anything wrong" followed by "i love you, i just dont think im ready to be in a relationship right now" so as soon as i read that, i tried to call him... no answer...i texted him "well if thats the case...and your not gonna answer your phone, then i think we should break up", he texted back "im at work, but wow...ok whatever..i'll be over tonight to get my shit and give you your key to the house" and then said "we can talk tonight". so he came over that night, was really sad....could barely look at me...and i said, OK....say what u gotta say...we're either together or we're not and he said idk what i want right now... i dont want any other girls..i want you but i dont feel like im in the same place as you..you have your own house, job, ur about to graduate and im 22, no credits...working a dead end job and need to get my life together... not to sound mean, but you distract me
so ofcourse, he sat there and wouldnt leave...just stared at me...about made me cry but i vowed i wouldnt cry in front of him...then he left...it was so hard to watch him leave. he stopped at his car and stared back at me for what seemed like 10 minutes...then got in and drove off... ive been really good about it...havent called him...texted him until he calls me...except one night i got a little drunk..and he turned his phone off on me..(apologized for it the next day, alll day...but i wouldnt respond back.. and finally i did b/c i didnt wanna cut my nose off despite my face...and he asked me to come over, wanted to see me...so being stupid, i did... to my surprise...his friends were all over..and he hugged me...kissed me on the cheek...told me he loved me in front of them... acted like a complete different person.. so now, im just asking...what do i do? b/c even his friends tell me that i'm the best girlfriend he's ever had..and that he's really trying to get his life together..
now he's saying that he just wasnt in it for the long haul and i was....that it was a conflict of interest....but still wants to talk to me...UMM..
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